ARE WE MARRIED, OR WE ARE NOT?
When you find yourself asking such question, it tells that all is not so well. In other words, there’s need to sit up and put things in order.
ARE WE MARRIED, OR WE ARE NOT…
for some, they can’t wait for that day when they exchange the words: I do. That special day with its magical moment would be the cumulation of the love they hold for each other, and the desire to share that love till death do them part. Still there are those who have exchanged the vows, but are desperately hoping for the day when they finally call it quit, and walk separate ways.
The unfortunate ones it seems, are those who are stuck. They seem married, but they feel single; each doing his own thing, each pursuing his own dream. You find one person advancing his career, and the other just being stagnant, and so the margin between them just gets wider.
So many marriages are going through this. A lack of unity in the home is a serious issue. Many spouses do not carry their partners along in their advancement towards growth. Hence there exist friction in the relationship of one to the other. One of the spouse sees himself as being superior, leaving the other feeling inferior.
A clear case of advancement could be that you earn more money than your partner, or that you are gainfully employed whereas your partner is not. Such disparity could make the less advantaged spouse feeling worthless, especially if the other makes him feel so. Another example is acquiring knowledge, while your partner is focused on making more money or just pursuing other interests.
Living as strangers in the home has been associated as one of the leading causes of emotional breakdown, psychological trauma, and even health related issues. The idea for coming together in the first place was to do things as a team. Wherever the friction could have arose is not unconnected with a lack of communication.
. If one spouse feels he’s doing well, whereas the other feels otherwise, then mutual tolerance and understanding implies that the more advantaged person is sympathetic towards the other, and carries him along. ARE WE MARRIED, OR WE ARE NOT
Staying in marriage because of the children, or just respecting the vows we took, will never mend the cracked wall. If we had felt something enough to bring us together in marriage, then we should feel something hugely enough to keep us in it. One of such ingredients to a lasting marriage is: communication, openness, and freewill. These are easy to utilise if we have good intention of being married, otherwise we might be living for the wrong reasons.
ARE WE MARRIED, OR WE ARE NOT
written by Gloria Okezie – Okafor
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