Encouraging Short Stories About Life Lessons …
‘Are you nuts? How can you be talking of a separation? So many women would love to be in your position.’
Those were Amaka’s remark after I confided in her about my plan to get separated from Kehinde, my husband of eight years, and father to our lovely kids –Timi and Tolu.
Amaka thinks I am stupid; she thinks I am just been selfish. What were my excuses? Kenny, the women’s man, a graduate of Civil Engineering, CEO of WallMark & Co. Kenny, the average height, physically fit, handsome dude, who goes about town wearing the most enchanting smiles, yet could scarcely make his woman happy.
I have endured it for so long, and somehow I had begun to think it was just how a marriage ought to be. My parents were not educated, but at least they were happy together. Or maybe because my mother was the traditional housewife who took every instruction her husband gave to detail. Well, our days are a bit different. I hold a Masters in Economics.
Literally speaking though, I have been the traditional wife who makes life easy for her husband by making sure his position as the head of the family is not contested. I carried Kenny along in my every plan; made sure I give him up-to-date information about our kids educational, mental, and spiritual development. But what did I get?
This supposed loyalty practically turned me into a corporate maid. My duties, apart from my career, were streamlined into reporting home events to my husband, while he for his part, rubs my back with a pat. It didn’t feel like the man and wife thing where we discuss family issue, and express affection. My life was lacking in romance and intimacy.
Severally, I had called my husband’s attention directly and indirectly, and he just didn’t seem to get the drift. I will be forty-five this year, how am I supposed to cope with a loveless marriage –a marriage that is devoid of affection? Kenny is in his late fifties, and pretty soon he may not have any interest for romance.
Short Stories About Life Lessons …
‘These are my fears,’ I told Amaka. ‘Nnene, get your head out of the clouds. This is Africa. Just because your husband is not showing you the lovey-dovey thing doesn’t mean he cared less. He provides for you and the kids; he doesn’t get in the way of your career. You would only be destroying your future if you walk away from your marriage. And I guarantee you wouldn’t have gone far when there will be a replacement for the vacuum you so willingly helped to create. And guess who the victims would be?’
Amaka’s words were final. And somehow, I feared she could be right. Although, I am yet to tell Kenny of my plans. I guess he could sense from my actions that things were changing for us. And as typical of my husband, he would be the last to call you to any emotional changes. He just isn’t sensitive to whatever affect my personal life. Truth is, he had been like that since we got married? I’m confused. How am I to cope: stay or leave?
To be continued…
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Short Stories About Life Lessons … written by Gloria Okezie-Okafor.